Saturday, August 9, 2014

2014 is the Year of Travelling

After I typed down the above title, I realised I made a mistake. 2014 is Not the Year of Travelling. 2014 is My Year of Travelling. * Beaming *

Arrogant? Yes, a lil bit. Show Off? Looks like it. (Tsk, tsk. I'm not a modest person. Hahaha) Grateful? Definitely. Proof? Read Below....

September13 ~ Melbourne, Australia
March14 ~ Shanghai, Suzhou & Hangzhou (China)
April14 ~ Seoul, Korea
June14 ~ Bali, Indonesia
September14 ~ Bangkok, Thailand
December14 ~ Hong Kong
April15 ~ Seoul, Korea

My trips were sponsored? Nah, except for China & Indonesia. I'm a princess in a fairy tale story. Nah, I worked my ass off for them.

Just a way for me to reward myself and fill up the holiday gaps I've missed in the past.

As much as I wanted to post some travel blogs with attractive photos, I am mere lazy. Hopefully I'll find a day to do them. Right now, my addictions are travelling & preparing itinerary & boasting to friends about my itinerary & holiday experiences. I'm such a bitch : p

Thursday, March 27, 2014

Women Must Do & Must Not Do with Men & Relationship

Right this moment, I am attached but not married. I am 31 years old this year and I am Asian living in KL City. Can I call myself successful or not successful with men & relationships? I'm not sure. Maybe yes, maybe not.

I encountered my heart breaks & undying love from men which I wanted oh-so-much but couldn't have it and also from men I-do-not-want but they persist to the extend I think they are psychotic. Through these experiences, I sum up the below must do and must not do with men & relationship. It's not exactly 1+1=2 as they call it in love, but just my general thoughts. Did I do or not do all the below? Of course I didn't, otherwise I presume I would be happily married to my dream man as though I live in Korean, Taiwan & other lovesick dramas & movies. I'm not Saint and so aren't you. But as women, we should try our best to please the opposite sex without looking desperate. After all we are in 2014, women and men should be treated fairly & equally.

Must Do's:-
1) Learn funny jokes (in men terms) and tell them about it.
2) Pick up some cliche men hobbies. Ie.: pool, football, beer, men intellectual topics, etc
3) 50-50 mixture of independence and dependencies. This is tough and subjective. Ie: you can send your car to the workshop on your own during breakdown and tell your man about it, but you can't kill a cockroach or dispose garbage without the help of your man.
4)  Make an effort for ME-TIME once to twice a week, irregardless of whether you need it or not. Women when deeply in love, are soooo clingy. And that's a total No-No. Hence, irregardless of whether you need it or not, you have to act as though you need it. If you are so in love that you couldn't resist not seeing each other everyday, then at least make time for once or twice a week where you didn't initiate for the meet up.
5) Women love talking. Women love to make men talk. But when they talk, we don't listen. So try to listen when they talk. It could be any time during day or night. Just try to pay attention when they try to talk. It may not be deep & emotional talks, could be talks we thought are casual but important to them. Just listen!
6) Pick up cliche women hobbies/abilities that men appreciate but find it rare these days. Ie: cooking a 3-course meal, soup, sewing loose button, scrubbing and cleaning the house at every corner without screaming for help from him or your mom, know how to take care of kids before you have one, can resist from shopping, does not like gossiping and talk bad about your supposedly good/best friend.
7) Split the bill. Ok, I know Asian being Asian, we don't like splitting all bills like the Western mostly do. However, make an effort to pay for once or twice on dinner when he paid four or five times a week. Consistency is more important than total threshold amount for men. Don't try accumulating all the free dinners to an expensive birthday/valentine gifts. Most men do not know the prices of gifts like we do with just one glance.

Must Not Do's:-
1) Never slack from the above must do's and below must not do's, no matter how long you have been in the relationship. Like I mentioned earlier, it's about consistency.
2) Never use the word break-up or divorce to win an argument. If you had to when in a relationship, use it rarely say once a year and if you had to when in a marriage, use it rarely say once every ten years.
3) No matter how angry you are, you can cry (but not too often), but you cannot use violence (ie. slapping, pinching, biting, scratching, hair pull). Egoistic men usually do not beat women, but they also have a thing against being beaten by women. Men & women should be treated equally. If you think men beating women is a no-no, so is the other way round.
4) Respect his family & all relatives. Even if you can't click, you can remain silent with simple hello's or greeting's, but never bitch. You can be tagged as quiet, so-so, rude or impolite and still pass the test, but not when you are tagged as a BITCH. Even when he bitches, don't join his bitching. Just acknowledge with, "I see.." or "Wow" or "So sad" or "I feel sorry for you".  We don't know when he will make up with his family or relatives after the "don't look back in anger" period and not remember about your bitching. After all, it's FAMILY.
5) Never slack in maintaining your physical appearance. There is a saying, beautiful women = rich men. If you want to marry rich men, so do rich men want to marry beautiful women. And this principle apply to any norm person. Be in full-makeup in appropriate formal occasion and be in natural-barely-there make up in casual occasion. And of course, try to walk out your house without make-up confidently but not ugly. Tough huh? Yes, so exercise, proper eating & sleep is the key to it.
6) Never laugh when they cry. They will appreciate it.
7) Never be in terrible debts and let your man know about it. Men appreciate women with proper financial planning, which in a way makes the woman wife-quality. Unless your man is bottomless in cash and don't mind paying off all the debts on your behalf, which happen once in awhile in a real-life fairy-tale. Also there is a difference in efficient cost planning and kiasu-ness. Don't bother about any savings of RM100 and below, but cautious for savings of above RM100, or some other figures at your comfort level. In other words, save the big amount but spend the small amount so that you don't end up looking like a TOTAL-AUNTY.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Love or Ego. Make a choice.

I thought my heart cannot be further broken since three years ago when it was shattered to a million pieces like the lyrics of an oldies song. But surprise! That's the thing about women, we never give up in love. Though at heartbreaking times, many of us would swear to the world, swear to friends and swear to ourselves that it would be last time your heart is broken or the last time you would date a man seriously. But alas, 6 months down the road, we would have long forgotten the swears of our life.

Frankly speaking, how can a woman restrict herself from dating, with the exception of no one asking her out for a date or her invitation for a date is never accepted. I am just human. Let's be frank to myself, I am afraid of loneliness, I am afraid of boredom and I need companionship. And I am not ugly on the physical side. But I am ugly on the personality side. I'm hot tempered especially when it comes to relationship and supposedly "The One" in my life. And the stories go such as, smashing one's head with a beer bottle, smashing one's head with an ashtray and the latest would be dumping every piece of his belongings out of my house, into his face, for a reason that if you know, you would just roll your eyes. That's me. I'm possessive when I'm in love.

During the initial stage, I would tell myself that I'll take things lightly and there would be no strings attached to the man. This no-strings-attach-strategy, would only work when the other party acts the same and I would be a good player all along. But damn it! Once the man starts to promise me the stars and the moon, my heart would melt immediately. No matter how much I deny to the world that my heart melted, deep down inside, it's just an idiotic heart melting like a piece of butter on a high heat frying pan. On the naive side of me, I would think to myself, "Hey, this is my chance. My chance to finally grab a good man home who would love me with all his heart and shower me on a daily basis with nothing but tender loving care." My idiotic heart is as immature as a 12 year old girl and she still doesn't get it. Sigh... Honey, Fairy Tale doesn't exist. It's a tale... It's a story... It's not real.

I know it's not an argument that's too big to stop us from talking to each other. But as stubborn as a bull, I'm not making the first move. As much as I hope you would remember your promises, I know you wouldn't. And the first move is measured by, which is bigger? Your supposedly love of your life or your ego? I made my choice, it's my ego. No regrets. If loneliness, boredom and lack of companionship decide to stick to my life, I would embrace them with open arms (now I'm swearing to the world like I said on above, stupid..)